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Guest Post: Thoughts from the Father of the Bride

Moxie Dad! Photo by Redfield Photography

Moxie Dad!
Photo by Redfield Photography

Moxie Dad here blog followers… I asked Moxie if she minded posting this reflection on the wedding from a Dad’s point of view in the hopes that as you plan your own special day you will be aware of the significance that the festivities hold for those who love you the most.

Many people had asked me prior to the big day, “What is it going to feel like giving away your daughter…” which felt to me like some ancient custom from a long lost civilization. This certainly didn’t apply to Moxie and me; our relationship was different, more modern, and more self-aware.  Well-intentioned people seemed to be preparing me for some great loss and as they spoke to me I noticed that their comments went in two directions:

a) Like I was losing my daughter rather than gaining a son in law

b) Like I had giving away something here rather than acknowledging that it was she that gave her love to Bob the Builder.

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Guest Post: MoxieDad’s Corner of the Sky

This photo was taken from MoxieDad's hotel room at Animal Kingdom.

Note from Moxie Bride: Guys, It’s Father’s Day, and MY DAD is here! A few weeks ago, Bob the Builder and I were at dinner with Bridesmaid Red and Hubby Red, and somehow we got on the subject of MoxieDad & StepMom Moxie and their Magical Mystery Tours. The Reds had many questions, which I did not have answers for. So, I asked MoxieDad to fill us in! Take it away, Moxie Dad…

Hello followers of That Bride’s Got Moxie!

I’m Father of the Moxie Bride, or Moxie Dad for short.

Last weekend Moxie was in town to celebrate her bridal shower, and I took the opportunity to crash the party to say hello to some people who I haven’t seen in many years. I know that men are not invited to the swinging soiree, so I was just going to sneak in at the end to mingle with the ladies (and have dinner later with Moxie and my wonderful wife, the lovely StepMom Moxie.) I show up at the time we expected the party to be winding down, and low and behold, my beautiful daughter is in the middle of thanking everyone and opening gifts. So I exited stage left and returned an hour or so later when my presence would not affect the gathering.

It was great to see everyone but most memorable was that I got to spend some time talking to Moxie Bride’s cousin Debbie who I had not seen in many years. As we sat and talked about the old days before everyone’s children were born, people that we have lost along the way, and the bridge to where we are now and where we came from, I remembered I saw the original production of Pippin on Broadway with her.

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That night was memorable for many reasons, Ben Vereen at his very peak, John Rubinsten as Pippin, and a strange occurrence in the balcony. We were sitting in the mezzanine and during the intermission Debbie came back from the ladies room and told us, (MoxieMom, Me, & Debbie’s husband) that she followed me up to the balcony and saw me sit down next to another woman. What!?!?  I had been sitting in the same spot for the entire break – and I had witnesses! She then told us that the person she followed looked identical to me. So we went up to the balcony and there I was staring back at myself. My doppelganger looked back at me and we both experienced a little bit of vertigo. After a few seconds, we spoke and it was really very strange to see yourself as though through a mirror, but without the simultaneous movements.  Some other people in the crowd saw what was going on and commented that we both looked like John Rubinstein’s Pippin character. It is amazing how little we had to say to each other, (or maybe it was just shock), but the meeting was brief, and we returned to our seats to see the remainder of the show. I always remembered the themes from that play; the youthful quest to follow an extraordinary life, his battles with tyranny, and finally his acceptance that to live a modest life filled with love and joy is in it self an extraordinary thing.

I’m not sure that I have succeeded in living that type of modest life; there are just too many wonderful adventures to experience.  So how do I bridge what is essentially the selfish endeavor of wanting to experience as much as life has to offer, with the love and joy of all the wonderful people around me? I found that answer in a Beatles song. Well, just the title, actually.

I call what I do “Magical Mystery Tours“. Here is how it goes… Whenever I see something interesting, be it a special trip to somewhere we have not travelled to, an out of the way restaurant, or a show that has some redeeming value, I announce to my wife that we are going on a Magical Mystery Tour. No other data is provided, except what to pack, or what to wear. End of conversation. No hints, clues, or trails of breadcrumbs. If asked, I usually say, “It’s none of your bid-ness…”

MoxieDad and StepMom Moxie on their wedding day. In Africa.  This was not a Magical Mystery Tour.

MoxieDad and StepMom Moxie on their wedding day. In Africa.
This was not a Magical Mystery Tour.

One such MMT was to Martha’s Vineyard for a long weekend. For that trip, I even started driving in the wrong direction just to throw her off the scent. For the trip to Animal Kingdom (Walt Disney World), I did have to suggest a packing list, which begged the questions of being in a warmer climate. So I said, “We’re going to Africa…” This worked out very well when the first thing we saw out of the balcony of the hotel was a giraffe.

This photo was taken from MoxieDad's hotel room at Animal Kingdom.

This photo was taken from MoxieDad’s hotel room at Animal Kingdom.

Our Magical Mystery Tour’s are not just limited to the two of us.  The wife of a couple that we are close with had a breast cancer scare. During that time I invited them to a MMT where we headed into Manhattan to a lovely restaurant and then over to a comedy club… laughter is the very best medicine. The payoff came for my wife and me when we looked over and saw her crying with tears of laughter. We ended the night at a late night café for desserts on the upper West Side. I can’t take credit for having helped her, but she is fine now, and a great night was had by all.

My wonderful wife has arranged her own MMT’s to surprise me with as well. Good things have a tendency to multiply, and that is an extra reward to all the effort.  Friends and family have come to appreciate when we invite them on a Magical Mystery Tour, not knowing what to expect. But knowing that they will be in good hands is all that it takes to put people at ease with the unknown details.

So if you read this and decide that maybe the lives of the people around you will benefit from a little mystery, a little adventure, a little dose of “how about I do something for you and we both have fun at it…” here are my suggestions:

  1. Don’t plan something that is really a “Me” event. I.E don’t plan a trip to an amusement park if she doesn’t like rides…
  2. Details… plan out the event and make it as seamless as possible. Show whomever you are doing this for that you wanted this to be a wonderful memory.
  3. No hints… Silence is golden.  If you start dropping hints, it can be taken as a way to show control. This isn’t about control, it is about joy and surprise.
  4. Don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t work out exactly as you plan. It’s about the journey – not the results. Half the fun is in the planning, which as I said is the selfish part…

Many years ago my Mom (aka Grandma Moxie) used to say: “This isn’t a dress rehearsal.”

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Grandpa Moxie & Grandma Moxie

She was trying to say that this is the one life we have to live. We owe it to ourselves and the wonderful people that we are blessed to have in our lives to experience all that this world has to offer. As long as we temper that by not abandoning the responsibilities we have to each other, anything goes. So ask yourself if someone in your life might like a special night, weekend, or event… Then don’t tell them anything about it, keep it close to your vest, and let the mystery enliven your lives a little.

Tonight I’m going to listen to “Corner of the Sky” from the Pippin soundtrack. I know I have it on an eight track somewhere around here…. What I know is that I have found my corner of the sky. I’m many years away from that boy that was so touched by that song and I can see how much I have learned about the joy of a life well lived. I’m where I need to be, and where I can share my passion with those that matter the most to me. I hope as you read this you find yourself in the same place.

The only remaining question is… I wonder how my doppelganger is doing.

MoxieDad Signing Off…

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StitchFix #2: Now with more RED!

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Hey Peeps,

Yesterday I filled you in on my new favorite thing, StitchFix, and the hills and valleys of that first shipment. Did you miss it? It’s right here. Go read it. We will wait.

Now that I am older and wiser (I’ve had a birthday since my last Fix!), I got my second StitchFix, and here’s how it went down.

I specifically asked for a dress in this StitchFix, because Bob the Builder and I were going to dinner for my birthday, and I wanted something new and cute. I mentioned that my preferred silhouette was a small waist and a full skirt (I look best in 1950′s inspired pieces – clearly born at the wrong time), and hoped they would have something that fit the bill.

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Shirt #1: Y’all, I loved this shirt. It’s a lovely tomato red, which actually looked great on me. And I’ve been wanting a top in this drapey style for a while now. I’ve even pinned it a few times to my My Style Pinterest board, which StitchFix references when choosing my items. I mean, obviously they did, since this exact style is on that board about five times! But once I had it on my body, it was just too big. The smallest part of me is my waist, and if I wear tops that are too loose, I just look enormous. I am also not-so-blessed-in-the-chest, so I think this was just the wrong size for me. I would have loved to return this for a size smaller, but as I’ve previously mentioned, that’s not an option with StitchFix.

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Shirt #2: More red! So thrilled with the red, and the print! And the silhouette wasn’t bad either. I didn’t keep this shirt, and now I wish I had. It’s so cute and summery and would have added some much-needed print to my wardrobe. All I can say in my defense is that I was PMS-ing and possibly making rash (bad) decisions. This top is “the one that got away”!

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Dress #1: I’ve nicknamed this dress “The Hot Mess Dress”. I guess because it had a tie waist my stylist thought this might work, but it wouldn’t even fit past my waist. Like, it came to a complete stop by my hips. So, no. No, no, no. Not meant for anyone with Jessica Rabbit hips. Total Fail. But, the color was nice, and the fabric was gorgeous.

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Necklace: I remembered to take a photo this time! Sad to say, this one was not a keeper. MOH CraftyPants bought me an almost identical necklace last year for my birthday. So, kudos for StitchFix for knowing my taste. But I’ve since changed my preference to “statement jewelry” so that I can get some variety in my choices. I can’t wait to see what that means in my next StitchFix!

Dress #2: Here’s where the heartbreaking (I’m such a drama queen) story begins…

I asked my stylist for a cute birthday dress with a small waist and a full skirt, maybe with a fun print. And oh boy, did they deliver! I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy with a dress (besides my wedding dress, obvs). I think some of the excitement was because I NEVER would have picked out this dress myself, and the other excitement was because it fit really well. It was so good, I wanted to wait and take a proper photo of myself wearing it out on my birthday – hair and makeup done – beacuse it was SO GOOD.

Here’s the info card: By the way, each item of clothing comes with these handy little cards that show you different ways to style the piece. This is awesome for me, because I am so lame at styling and accessorizing. I need all the help I can get!

info card from StitchFix

info card from StitchFix

Why don’t I have a photo of me in this awesome dress? Because the zipper broke as I put it on, splitting down the side and causing it to be totally unwearable. Insert sad face here.

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sad broken birthday dress

So, on the fly, I switched to my trusty ole LBD and we went to dinner. The next day, I emailed customer service at StitchFix. I am so thrilled to report that their customer service is excellent! Within four hours of my initial email, they had replied expressing sincere apologies for my trouble with the dress. As it happens, they have my dress (in my size!) in stock, so they are sending me a new one, and I am sending the broken one back to them. They even sent me a pre-paid return label so I don’t have to pay for shipping. YAY! StitchFix for the WIN! I am so happy to be getting the new dress! I don’t know where I will wear it, but when I do, I’ll post a photo.

It’s so nice to do business with a company that actually cares about customer service. It’s unfortunately really rare these days, I think.

So, that’s StitchFix #2. I still love the service, despite a few sizing problems and a broken zipper. I mean, when you go to the mall, not everything is a home run, right? At least with StitchFix I can try things on in my own home, at my leisure, and match it with items that are already in my warbrode. So, I will keep on keeping on with StitchFix, hoping that eventually I will be able to purchase everything in my box and take advantage of that 25% off discount. Y’all know how much I love a discount!

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personal photo of my StitchFix packing invoice

If you want to try Stitch Fix for yourself, and you use this link, I get a little referral credit.

Full disclosure: No one at StitchFix has sponsored this post in any way. I was not compensated to write about them (I’ll always tell you if that’s the case).

I just think it’s cool and wanted to share it, and if I can get a little extra shopping credit at the same time, well then, yay! And if you sign up, and refer your friends, you can get the same referral credit!

EVERYONE WINS Y’ALL.

Happy Shoppings!!

My New Favorite Thing: StitchFix!

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I think I’ve mentioned before that I really have no tolerance for shopping these days. Mostly, I order clothes online and just hope they look good when they get to me. It usually works out ok, but I tend to pick the same stuff over and over. Jeans, tee shirts, tank tops, jeans, yoga pants, jeans…do you see where I am going with this? I am definitely stuck in a rut. I basically live my life in yoga pants. It’s not so cute. I need fashion help.

A few months ago, I was reading my good friend Mindy’s blog (Budget Fairy Tale, go check it out), and Mindy posted about this new at home personal styling service called StitchFix. I was immediately intrigued.

Y’all StitchFix is awesome. Whenever you want to schedule a fix, they send you a box of 5 handpicked items for $20. You try on all the items, keep what you love, and send back the rest in a prepaid envelope they send in your Fix. It’s super easy, and super fun. It’s not a monthly service, so you’re not obligated to anything every month – you decide the schedule. You can schedule 4 Fixes in one month, or 4 Fixes a year…whatever floats your boat.

I went to the site to sign up, and was wait listed for a little bit. (Don’t be discouraged, it wasn’t too long of a wait!) When it was time to join, I filled out my Style Profile, which took about 10 minutes and was fun. They ask you a ton of style questions, which made it easier for me to pinpoint what I like and what I think is missing from my wardrobe. Also, questions like this are helpful, as I am a visual gal:

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screen capture of the style profile from StitchFix

They ask you all about your sizes, and body type, which is great, because my Jessica Rabbit sized hips are definitely out of proportion to the rest of my body. Questions like “Are you curvy on your bottom half?” made me feel much more relaxed.

So, my first Stitch Fix came a few weeks later. It was like Christmas when it arrived! So many possibilities!

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The items in my box ranged from $50-$100 each, which is the price range I requested in my Style Profile. Other price ranges are: the cheaper the better, $100-$150, $150-$200, and $200+. Right away, I was smitten with the black lacy thing at the top of the box. It was love as first sight, really. I had requested some help with choosing prints, as most of my wardrobe is solids. And I wanted something “fun” for spring. Every time you schedule a fix, you have the opportunity to ask your stylists to focus something specific. I went with “prints” and “fun”. Here’s what I got:

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Shirt #1: I am a bad blogger and didn’t write down the designer name. I didn’t take a pic with this shirt on, because it didn’t flatter me at all. I don’t like (or look good in) button-up shirts. The print and the color looked good on me, but the cut was all wrong. I NEVER would have picked this out in a store, so yay for StitchFix for stretching my boundaries. It just wasn’t meant to be.

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Shirt #2: personal photos

Shirt #2: Gorgeous, but unfortunately it did not fit. Like, at all. Here’s where I’m super honest and tell you that I sized my shirts a size down from my normal size, as I was feeling pretty victorious about my recent 20 lb. weight loss. Ridiculously, this did not mean that I went down a size. Ugh. Anyway, I LOVED this shirt, and would have totally kept it if it fit. Insert sad face here.

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Side note: Please excuse my messy bedroom. Bob the Builder and I don’t have enough clothes storage, and well, it’s a mess in there. We need to buy a grown-up bedroom set. But that’s a whole other Oprah entirely.

Shirt #3: A super cute Chevron tunic. That wouldn’t fit over my butt. Total bummer, because had it fit, I would be wearing it right now. Do you see a trend here? Not much fit me in this box. Totally my fault, but it still bummed me out.

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Shirt #4: personal photos

Shirt #4: This one I kept. I loved it in the box, I loved it on me. Not the best photo in the world, but I’ve worn this top three times since I got it and each time received compliments. So yay! And, if I remember correctly, I think this was $66. The $20 you spent to receive the box gets credited back to you if you buy something, so it feels like I only spent $46, but that’s just faulty math. :-) If you buy all five items in your box, you get 20% off everything, which is an awesome deal!

I also received a nice pair of gold earrings that I didn’t keep (or even try on) because I already own a nearly identical pair. Major points for StitchFix for “getting” my style. Major points.

After you try everything on, you send back what you don’t want to keep in a pre-paid envelope. Just drop it in a mailbox within three days – easy peasy!

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bye 1st StitchFix!

Lessons learned from my first StitchFix:

  • Order your correct size. (Duh.) They don’t let you return something for a different size, so if you love something though it might be too small or too big, you’re kind of stuck. I don’t think they offer this for several reasons – shipping would get very expensive, and their inventory changes very quickly. It’s one of the few drawbacks I have with the service.
  • If you want to use your StitchFix to experiment with new styles, your Style Profile has to reflect that. For instance, I marked my jewelry preference as “classic”, but then they sent me earrings I already owned. I have now since changed my preference to “statement”. Curious to see what they send me next!
  • Feedback is key! After you try on your Fix, you log on to the website to “check out” and provide feedback. This is really the only way your stylist gets to know you. After this fix, I commented on my dislike of button-down shirts, and my love of all things Red. And what do you know? My next Fix was FULL OF RED. Awesome.

So, that was my first StitchFix. Tomorrow I’ll fill you in on my second StitchFix, and my experience with their customer service.

What do you think, kids? Is this a service you think you’d like? Despite my few hiccups, I am really loving it. If you are interested in trying it out, and you use this link, I get a nice little referral credit.

Full disclosure: No one at StitchFix has sponsored this post in any way. I was not compensated to write about them (I’ll always tell you if that’s the case).

I just think it’s cool and wanted to share it, and if I can get a little extra shopping credit at the same time, well then, yay!

Happy Shoppings!!

Camp Mighty: A ripple, not a tidalwave.

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I sat down to write this post just a few hours after returning from Camp Mighty, and well…I just couldn’t do it. Then Bob the Builder and I hosted Thanksgiving dinner for 15, and then, well…December happened. Now we are just five days away from leaving Los Angeles for our Christmas holiday, and well…here we are!

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When I decided to go to Camp Mighty, I really didn’t know what I was getting into. I had heard about it from Meg at A Practical Wedding and Dana at Broke Ass Bride, as I am an avid reader of both blogs. When the opportunity arose, I jumped on it. But when anyone would ask me to explain it, I would say, “Well, it’s a like a retreat for bloggers. Kinda.” All I really knew what that I needed some perspective and perhaps some motivation, and I thought Camp Mighty could help me. And I was right.

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Maggie Mason, the gal behind this whole shebang, gave a talk first thing on Friday morning. She was funny, and smart, and she said many wise things. In fact, here are her bullet points:

1.Your words determine your happiness

2. Action is transformative.

3. Check marks don’t equal happiness

4. Our opinions of ourselves are not fact

5. Be rigid only if you want to snap

6. My body is a compass

7. It’s about who you love and who loves you

8. You can predict the future

I am going to do a more in-depth post about each one, because they all really spoke to me, and I think they speak to many of us. Universal truths, people!

Entrepreneurs Laura Mayes and Maggie Mason, co-founders of Camp Mighty pose in the Smilebooth at Camp

Entrepreneurs Laura Mayes and Maggie Mason, co-founders of Camp Mighty pose in the Smilebooth at Camp

We heard from many amazing speakers (you can see the list in my photo).
Derreck Kayongo, the founder of Global Soap Project, is changing people’s lives, all because he saw an opportunity in what we Americans (astonishingly) consider waste.
Photo by Leslie Fandrich

Photo by Leslie Fandrich

Every wonder what hotels do with the half-used bar of soap you leave in your room when you check out? Derreck did.  And now, he recycles that soap! He told us his amazing, inspiring life story and urged us to pay attention. PAY ATTENTION, he said. Look for the punctuation marks in your life. Connect your dots. We are all here for a reason – our job is to pay attention and not miss it! He is such a unique, warm soul. I encourage you all to learn more about his wonderful organization, Global Soap Project.
We heard from Ben Silbermann, founder and CEO of Pinterest. Ben called the Camp Mighty ladies, “a mafia of industrious women” and forever won me over! He also won me over with the most kick-ass and accurate Venn Diagram EVER.
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Photo by Sara Wilson

Ben also said: “The best things in this world are made my groups of people who dream together.” “Making things can take a really long time.” “If you dream really big, you can do really big things.” “Pinterest is a place for people who are connected by their passions.” And my favorite, “Rich people like free cookies.” :-)

Other highlights of the weekend:

  • Jenny Lawson (aka The Blogess) (FULL DISCLOSURE: I had no idea who she was before Camp Mighty, leading other campers to look at me in astonishment like I’ve been living under a rock). I know who she is now. I have a girl crush on her. Go read her book, Let’s Pretend This Never Happened.
  • The Space Party, where I (nicely?) bullied the hipster DJ into playing “Footloose” so we could all dance like fools. If you don’t like “Footloose”, you are just telling lies to yourself. Get out on the dance floor!
  • The Hot Tub, where all the actual networking took place. In the hot tub, Jen (from I Fart in My Sleep) and I decided to travel up to Seattle to visit our new BFF Amy, and Liz (from Silver Charm Events) and I set up an interview (which you can read here), as well as more stuff I can’t tell you all about yet. Secrets, secrets!
  • Opening Dinner Bingo, which featured one of MY life list items (singing the national anthem at Dodger Stadium), which forced me to not be shy and go table to table and socialize. Well played, Camp Mighty organizers, well played.
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And, the Life Lists. The reason for the season, so to speak. I’ve talked about Life Lists before, here and here. And you can read mine. I have to say that I thought there would be more focus placed on the Life Lists, and at the time, I was really confused by it. But in the time since Camp, I’ve found myself moving toward crossing things off my list, without even really realizing it. I signed up to take the orientation to become a volunteer at the LA Mission. I’ve researched inversion yoga workshops in the area. I bought a Groupon to that tap class I’ve been wanting to try. It’s like my subconscious is moving me to action. It’s cool. I like it. More please, universe.

Also, I should give a shout out to all the sponsors that made the weekend possible, and in some cases, rad. Lands End gifted us super awesome wrap dresses, Old Navy helped us update our wardrobe with a free pair of jeans (which I will be giving myself as a reward once I am down a size. Coming soon!), Alt Summit gave us a class on the house, and the fine folks at Bing & WantList gifted me a fine book on lists. Because, well, I like lists.

So, yes, there was swag. And silly photos.

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I’m not even sure what is going on here.

And also socializing, relaxing, hot tubbing, learning, growing, networking, intention-setting, and sitting in front of cozy fireplaces.

In summary, although there were things I wasn’t too keen on (the food was just…not awesome…at all), I would definitely go back to Camp Mighty. And I would encourage others to go. You can never go wrong with a little introspection, extraversion, travel, and conversation. Never.

I think the effects of the weekend will be felt as ripples throughout my life – as opposed to the huge tidal wave that I assumed would come crashing over me that weekend. In the month since I’ve been, it’s revealed itself as more of a quiet thing, and that’s ok.

I’ll be updating on my Life List in the coming year, so be on the lookout for those posts interspersed with the wedding madness that I am sure is coming any moment now.

Oh, and next year, Camp Mighty is the weekend after my wedding. Soooooo, I’m not sure I can go. I mean, do you think Bob the Builder would want to honeymoon in Palm Springs?

And if you want to get started on your own Life List, go to Go Mighty and request an invite. We are all over there, setting and accomplishing goals. Do it!

Congrats MoxieBride Steph!

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My friend Steph got married this past weekend in lovely Santa Barbara! Steph and her fella Paul were wed at the gorgeous Santa Barbara Courthouse. I know, you’re thinking “ugh, courthouse…looks like a government building”, but you could not be more wrong!

Look at this loveliness:

Gorgeous chandelier in the Mural Room

A mural on the wall of the Mural Room – the walls are covered in this amazing, colorful art

Awesome.

In the interest of their privacy, I will not post any personal photos of them or their gorgeous ceremony, which they wrote and which made me weep openly, like a five-year old. They had a friend officiate, and the whole thing was just so lovely and true and heartfelt. And, I forgot to bring tissues, of course. Note to self, for always: TISSUES!

But here is Steph’s vibrant bouquet:

And the very lovely corsage that I got to wear:

This was a slap bracelet, y’all. Seriously. I was madly in love with it. A SLAP BRACELET!

This wedding was just such a lovely event, and an honest to god Practical Wedding. There was no ten piece brass band, no release of doves, no fireworks, or the bride riding in a Cinderella carriage. It was two grown ups pledging to be each others biggest champions, for the rest of their lives. And there were cocktails, munchies and milk and cookies. And it was grand. Truly.

So, the next time I think, “But I really NEED personalized breath mints for the bathroom baskets at my venue!”, I will take a deep breath and think of Santa Barbara. A bride, a groom and a promise is all you really need. But, ya know, milk and cookies doesn’t hurt either.

My Other Life

Thats me, on the right, in character, as Rita in the musical "Lucky Stiff". I don't look like this in real life.

It seems as though this blog project of mine goes in fits and starts, which is totally indicative of my personality and my life in general. I’ve been neglecting the blog, even though I have many stories to share, because of my other life. The one where I am an actress.

Thats me, on the right, in character, as Rita in the musical “Lucky Stiff”. I don’t look like this in real life.

Basically, I got cast in this show, then a week later Bob the Builder proposed. I’ve been trying to juggle rehearsals for this show with wedding planning and running my small business that actually pays my bills. Yeah, it’s been difficult.

Mostly, it’s been challenging to keep my concentration on any one thing. When I should have been learning my lines, we were in Philadelphia looking at wedding venues. When I should have been emailing back my potential wedding planner, I had to do the billing for my business. When I was returning calls to new clients, I was listening to my music rehearsal in the background. You get the idea. In the end, it just felt like I was barely getting anything productive done, because it was all so piecemeal. But, it has been a wonderful few months, and I know these are all quality problems to have.

Well, today my beloved show closes. So, it’s back to my real life, full-time. Part of me is ready to focus in on wedding stuff. Part of me is sad to leave my performing behind for a while. Most of me just wants to sleep in for a few days.

Expect more posts in the coming week and beyond. This wedding shiz is about to get REAL, folks.

I Grubbed! (AKA met some cool wedding chicks and ate awesome vegan food)

The enemy of picture-taking

A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of attending a dinner organized by Grub With Us, hosted by the lovely Dana, The Broke-Ass Bride herself. If you’re not already reading her blog, you need to get on that immediately. It’s full of goodness. Dinner was at Hugo’s in West Hollywood, a MUST if you’re into the vegan/healthy gourmet foods. Which I am.

Yummy Vegan deliciousness

Some might think meeting five strangers for dinner does not sound like a good time, but it really really was! It helped that we all were either bloggers or wedding/party planners, so we had a lot to talk about.

Dinner was delish, the conversation was hilarious, and Dana even gave us a super (tiny) sneak peek at her new lifestyle blog. It’s going to be rad. You need to go check it out, when it launches.

Because I am ridiculous, I forgot to take pictures. Whatever, I’m blaming the delicious cocktails.

The enemy of picture-taking

My super dinner companions were: Dana La Rue; Tracy, from The Bridal Concierge; Carson & Kathleen from The Itty Bitty Party Committee; and Lauren from Rogue Bride. Show them some love! They are all fabulous peeps!