Hi Peeps! Today let’s give a super warm welcome to the fabulous Melissa Dell (of MelissaDell.com). She & I took part in a blogger challenge to “Walk A Mile in Each Other’s Shoes” (extra special thanks to AJ of Confessions of a Fat Girl), and these are the fruits of our blogging labor! If you’re curious about what I wrote, check the sidebar for the badge with the cute flats on it!
Take it away, Melissa…
Hi everyone, I’m Peach and I was so pleased to be asked by Moxie Bride to guest post for her during her honeymoon! I met Mrs. Moxie at Camp Mighty 2012 and remember thinking that her blog name was perfect. She DOES have moxie. In spades.
So, why am I here? I’m getting married later this year and I’m currently neck-deep in Dress Shopping Mania Phase. I’m sure many of you out there can relate to the ups and downs of the experience, so Moxie Bride asked me to do a review of a popular Atlanta boutique, made famous by Say Yes to the Dress – Atlanta, Bridals by Lori.
After our first look, Bob the Builder and I joined our bridal party for some group photos around Philadelphia. Our first location was just across the street at Independence Park.
- These are my favorite people.
More of my favorite people. I love how surly our flower girl, Lulu, is in these photos. She was not having it, you guys.
Hey Brideys, Raise your hand if you got engaged over the holidays.
Congratulations!! Let’s talk bridal fashion, shall we?
Are you already a ModCloth fan like me? Did you know that ModCloth has a fun line of bridal dresses and accessories for you to plan your vintage-inspired wedding? It’s true!
I love their Aisle Be There dress for a City Hall wedding, or rehearsal dinner. Not gonna lie, I am a little obsessed with it.
If you’ve been reading along my crazy wedding planning journey, you already know that finding a wedding gown was challenging for me, to put it mildly. By the time I chose my dress, I had shopped at ten different dress salons on two different coasts and tried on easily 50-60 dresses. Just typing that made me exhausted.
At first, it was fun. I mean, trying on beautiful gowns is FUN. But, as the months wore on, I became anxious and worried. I was starting to doubt that I could find a gown I loved. I was seriously considering ordering a replica gown from a Chinese dress shop. Eventually, I was able to narrow it down to two, which I asked you lovelies to vote on. And vote you did! And guess what? I actually listened to you! Don’t say I never give you anything.
Here’s my beautiful gown, Melissa Sweet MS251004, from David’s Bridal.
(Side note: David’s Bridal, please, for the love of god, NAME your gowns! No one wants to call their gown by a stock number. It’s just gross. I know it’s more work for you, but I don’t care. You are a giant monster of a company. You can figure it out. I know you can.)
In case anyone is curious, I named by gown Bette. Because reasons. So there.
This past Saturday, I had the pleasure of volunteering at the Brides Against Breast Cancer event in Pasadena at the Brookside Golf Club.
Brides Against Breast Cancer sells all brands of new designer and “gently worn” wedding gowns in all shapes and styles. Their “Nationwide Tour of Gowns” will contribute over $2 million dollars this year and provides free support programs and services for those impacted by cancer. Education, nutrition, exercise, support and therapy are just some of the many programs and services they support, all designed to help cancer patients, their families and caregivers. Brides Against Breast Cancer will distribute over 10,000 breast “self-exam” cards this year. 2 MILLION DOLLARS. Wow.
It was my first time volunteering for this event, so I wasn’t sure what to expect. I arrived at 8am, ready for anything!
a giant truck full of wedding gowns!
In my last recap post, I only hinted at what I’m just going to come right out and admit.
I was totally sleep deprived and jet lagged the whole week of our wedding.
Let’s review: Bob the Builder and I arrived in Philly on Tuesday evening. On Wednesday, we hit the ground running at 8am to get our marriage license, and because we were drinking and dining with friends, didn’t get to bed until about 3am. I was literally falling asleep at the table. On Thursday, I was out the door at 9am and finally managed to fall asleep at 1am. Then I woke up at 5:30 am Friday morning and stayed awake. Friday night didn’t end until 2am, as you know, because the power went out.
And now, here we were at The Big Day. Our Wedding Day.
I know this sounds very melodramatic. I know. But this is how I feel today. I feel victorious. Like I just climbed a mountain or something.
You see, my wedding gown fit.
Which isn’t a small thing.
No, this is not another wedding gown post…
Our invitations were sent out last Monday. Our guests have almost all received them, and right on schedule, All The Questions have begun. Which I totally expected. Honestly, I welcome them. I’d much rather have a question asked than a guest confused. Which leads us to the most popular query thus far: “What does “black tie optional” mean?”
This is my fault, because I put it on our invitation.
This weekend, we managed a victory over a herculean feat: We have chosen all four Team Bridal dresses! Can I get a “hell yeah!”?
Since the beginning of my wedding planning journey, I’ve had strong opinions on Team Bridal attire. I’ve been a bridesmaid a LOT of times, and well…I’ve never actually liked any of the dresses I had to wear. Don’t get me wrong – they were never awful. I certainly haven’t had a “27 Dresses” experience.
But, the dresses were never awesome. They were always just…meh. And strangely, they have all been either baby blue or periwinkle. All. Of. Them. Weird, right?
I tried to find actual photos, but since all of these weddings took place before Facebook, this is the best I can come with. All the dresses kind of looked like this:
that’s me! personal photo circa 1999
Side note: Please note how I am holding my bouquet. No one told me to hold it down in front of me. This is WRONG. Don’t cover your dress with your bouquet. More on this later.
I have a strong vision for Team Bridal. Kind of. I want them in different style dresses. All four of my girls have strong personalities and very different energies. I don’t want them to look like “Robot Bridesmaids”. I want them to feel pretty, and comfortable, and like themselves. And I want them to look GOOD.
I will never understand the idea that the bridesmaids should look hideous so that the bride can look better in comparison. Who came up with this? If I went to a wedding and the bridesmaids looked like hot messes, I would think the bride had bad taste. I wouldn’t think, “Oooh, the bride is so much more beautiful!”. It’s such a bunch of BS.
It’s enough that I am asking these girls (that I love like sisters) to fly to Philadelphia, stay in a hotel, take time off from work and stand up with me at my wedding. They shouldn’t have to look or feel badly about themselves in the process. Just, no.
So, I decided that Team Bridal would chose different style dresses from the Alfred Sung Bridesmaid line from The Dessy Group.
I chose them for a few reasons: 1., the styles seemed universally flattering 2., there are a ton of options from which to choose, 3., I knew that NetBridal carried this line, and that meant we could get them at a discount 4., Dessy uses the Pantone color chart, and the shade of red that I love is available in all of the dress styles. 5., all of the cocktail length dresses looked stylish. Not too short (we are not going to the club!) and not too long (too matronly!)
Off we went out into the world to try them on!
This is an actual Facebook status update from a member of Team Bridal. Names covered to protect the innocent. :-)
Which turned out to be the most difficult part. You see, when you account for all the variables (color, length, and fabric) there are 42 available styles to try. We only needed 4 dresses, so this sounds promising, right? Well, let’s try again. None of the girls were interested in wearing a strapless dress. So, that narrows the pool down to 29. And of that 29, how many did we find to try on? After going to five different dress shops? Maybe half of that. Probably about 15. Le sigh.
I didn’t know I’d be doing math.
Most of the dress shops had A LOT of strapless styles to try. Not so many of the other options. And frequently, we would be assured that they carried this line of dresses only to get there and see that they maybe had three or four dresses to try. (I’m looking at you, Nordstrom.)
So, it got frustrating. And the search got a little long.
We were bolstered, pretty early on, by a Dessy Group Sample Sale in NYC. Moxie Mom and The Professor live in NYC, so when I got the email, I put them on the case immediately. The customer service at Dessy is not to be believed, by the way. They provided an email address on the sale flyer, so I took a chance and emailed, never thinking I would actually get a reply. Well, not only did I get a relpy, but Renee at The Dessy Group was outstanding. She listened to my very specific list of wants and style numbers, and she actually SET ASIDE dresses for us. When MoxieMom arrived at the sale (she herself armed with style numbers, pictures, and fabric samples), she was led to a rack that had all the dresses that fit our description. AMAZING!
MoxieMom was able to purchase 2 dresses for $20 each! MOH CraftyPants and The Professor had dresses! We were 50% done, and it was only July. Of 2012. Ridiculous.
We then spent the next, um…8 months trying to locate as many non-strapless dresses as we could. It continued to be frustrating. But we finally did it. All four are chosen!
Here they are, in all their glory:
Someone at The Dessy Group should start a try-on-by-mail program for their bridesmaid dresses. We live in a major city, and we found it nearly impossible to find all the styles we wanted to try on. In fact, SmartyPants is taking an (educated guess) leap-of-faith on her dress style. After five different dress shops, we were starting to think maybe it was a discontinued style. It’s not. I checked. So, everyone keep your fingers crossed that she loves it when it’s delivered and she can finally try it on.
I feel great that this is finally fully checked off the list! Woo Hoo!
Now, let’s hope there’s no drama when the dresses actually get here.
Did I just jinx it?
Anyone else wearing Alfred Sung dresses? And did anyone have a difficult time finding them? Please tell us we are not alone!