The Great Moxie Dress Search: Just When You Thought it Was Over

First, a little business to take care of. Excuse me a minute – this message is just for my fiance.

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OK, I think we’re alone now. I have something to say that may make all of you throw your hands up in frustration. I think I’m changing my mind about my wedding gown. I know, I know. You don’t have to say it, I know. I’m annoying myself. It’s awful.

If you’re new here, you can read about all my dress shenanigans here and here and here, and well…in many other posts as well. If you read my interview with Silver Charm Events, I spoke with Liz about my plan to get a dress custom made from a replica shop in China.


I am getting cold feet. (About the DRESS, not about Bob the Builder. Also, B the B, if you are reading this, I swear to God, GO AWAY!)

Here’s the short version. Well, as short as I can make it.

Two weekends ago, I went back to the LA bridal salon where I fell in love with the (way over budget) Jenny Packham May Blossom gown. I went and did some spy work, to get more information to give to Jasmine’s about the construction of the dress. Jasmine’s doesn’t have a pattern for the gown, they will construct it only from the photos I provide. I have amassed a LOT of photos of this bad boy. They say they can get 90-95% accuracy with this method. Anyway, two good friends (one who is also a costume designer) came with, and when we left she shop, they said, “Well, that’s not going to be easy to replicate.” Which I already knew. I did. But having someone say it to me gave me a moments pause.

A few days ago, I was stalking the Jasmine’s thread of Weddingbee, like you do – (well, like you do when you’re me) – and I noticed that some of the gowns that brides were receiving lately had some errors. Sizing, mostly. But, it made me think.

We have about seven months until the wedding.

If I order my dress from Jasmine’s, I won’t have it in my hands until late July/early August. If it’s not right, I only have two months to find a replacement dress. Do I really want to spend five months colloborating on a dress, worrying that it might not be perfect? I know myself well enough to know that honestly, imperfections drive me crazy. Is that really a gamble I want to take?

So, like any insane, Type A bride-to-be, I searched for a back-up dress. Actually, if I’m being honest, I already had one in mind, but this past weekend, I went to see it in person.  And I love it.

It’s a Melissa Sweet ballgown, and I have been in love with her designs since she was with Priscilla of Boston. Long time readers will know the depth of my frustration with P of B. If you care to fall down the rabbit hole, read here and here.

Anyway, now I am in a pickle. I don’t think I want a back up dress. I think I only want to order ONE dress. So, do I order a replica of a dress that I love, and hope I am not disappointed that it’s not exactly like the original? Or do I go with the sure thing that already exists in the world?

I am breaking my own rule and posting photos of me in dresses.

(Bob the Builder, you better not still be reading…seriously.)

I’m putting it to a VOTE. Yup. My brain is scrambled. Tell me what you think.

For the purposes of the poll, please note: Price is not a factor, they are virtually the same price. Also, I was 20 lbs. heavier in the first pic. So, keep that in mind. Also, sorry for the scary faceless photos. :-)

Should I get a REPLICA of this dress? 90-95% accuracy, remember.

#1: Should I get a REPLICA of this dress? 90-95% accuracy, remember.

Or this dress? Exactly this dress (in a size that actually fits me)

#2: Or this dress? Exactly this dress (in a size that actually fits me)

Oh, and you may have to wait until after the wedding to see what I chose. Because deep down, I’m evil like that. Sorry.

18 Comments on The Great Moxie Dress Search: Just When You Thought it Was Over

  1. Angela Cordiano
    February 18, 2013 at 7:37 pm (2 years ago)

    Ok I admit I didn’t read the post I just looked at the pretty pictures. I like the first dress. The bottom is soft and flowy (is that a word?). Your beautiful in both and your day will be wonderful either way. Hugs!

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      February 18, 2013 at 9:31 pm (2 years ago)

      LOL, thank you for your honesty! I love it! And thanks for your vote!

  2. SIL L (y)
    February 18, 2013 at 4:13 pm (2 years ago)

    First of all, you look beautiful in both. Dress 1 was your favorite from the beginning, you love how it looks and feels on you. Didn’t you try on another dress that was very similar to dress 1 and within your budget? Dress 2 is also beautiful and, again, you look amazing in both. Moxie mom is right, RELAX and be happy. You’ve made sure everything else is as perfect as possible, why wouldn’t you stick with the perfect dress?! Taking a chance on a replica from a million miles away is not an option! But that’s just my opinion. :)

  3. Veronica Scheyving
    February 18, 2013 at 10:21 am (2 years ago)

    My daughter is getting married on July 12th and is far too much a control freak to deal with a replica re-make which we decide very early on. Looking at both these dresses, I agree with Elise. I personally prefer #2 and feel it will accentuate YOU and your slimmed-down figure more than #1. And, isn’t this day supposed to be about you, anyway? Add to that, the uncertainty that comes with #1 makes it a no-brainer IMHO! You, as a bride, have enough to worry about without unnecessary additional issues! Take care and enjoy this time!

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      February 18, 2013 at 10:26 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks, Veronica! And congrats to your daughter!! :-)

  4. Marianne DeVirgiliis
    February 18, 2013 at 10:17 am (2 years ago)

    Moxie Mom here: I know you – go with the sure thing ~ you love it, it loves you (you look beautiful in it) and you can relax and be happy!

  5. corinda2013
    February 18, 2013 at 9:30 am (2 years ago)

    OK, I don’t think I can give an either or vote here, so I’ll tell you what I think. I LOVE the first dress. I mean LOVE. However, I too would be terrified about having a replica made in the wrong size. Question though – did the reviews say the sizes were too big or too small? Too big is much less of a problem, because it can always be sized down. Too small on the other hand can be disaster. I don’t know – they are both beautiful and no matter what you will be stunning, but I would vote for the first one only if you felt comfortable with the remake. I think that probably doesn’t help at all.

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      February 18, 2013 at 9:38 am (2 years ago)

      Cory, They were too small! I would be fine with too big, but too small terrifies me! I too, am in LOVE with #1, but I also love #2. Hence, the poll. :-)

  6. Amanda Colinsworth
    February 18, 2013 at 9:09 am (2 years ago)

    You look amazing in both! I went with #2 though :)

  7. Elise
    February 18, 2013 at 8:54 am (2 years ago)

    Just coming here to say that I like whatever you like, BUT…the fact that the top one looks a little odd, even in the soft, Beverly Hills lighting and that one will be reproduced and you’re not sure how it will turn out, and the bottom one is in harsh, ugly lighting with unattractive background but still looks super lovely on you, I voted for #2!

    • Marianne DeVirgiliis
      February 18, 2013 at 10:19 am (2 years ago)

      agreed Elise!

  8. prettymindy
    February 18, 2013 at 8:44 am (2 years ago)

    I really love the first gown … BUT, replicas are scary. If you can’t get the exact dress, then go with #2! They both look great on you!

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      February 18, 2013 at 8:47 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks, Mindy! Sadly, the first dress would have to be a replica. The actual Jenny Packham is WAY over my budget. :-(

  9. Andrea M
    February 18, 2013 at 7:23 am (2 years ago)

    #2… I’m always worried of the remakes, heard too many horror stories! Yikes! I’m too much of a control freak to leave that much up to chance! :-) but they are both gorgeous!

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      February 18, 2013 at 8:37 am (2 years ago)

      I am a control freak too. Totally.
      Thanks for your vote, Andrea!!


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