Bouquet Holding 101

bouquet holding 101

In my last post, I touched on the idea that there is a right way and a wrong way to hold a bouquet. Normally, life is not so black and white, but in the case of bouquet holding? It is, I tell ya. It is.

I mean, think about it – unless you are a pageant queen or bridal fashion model, how often have you held a bouquet in your life? If you grew up performing in dance recitals like I did, you’ve probably held a few. But that was many, many years ago.

And it’s probably something you will not think about…probably not even when someone hands you your bouquet to hold as you walk down the aisle. But you should absolutely think about it!

You know when you will think about it? When you see your photos. Photos that you paid a professional a pretty penny to take. Photos that will be displayed in your home forever. Photos that will be on your thank you cards and maybe even your holiday cards.

You will think about it when you say to yourself, “Damn. No one can see the detail in the bodice of my pretty gown!”

Because there is a wrong way to hold your bouquet.

This way:

Photo: One Wed

This bride seems to have misplaced her torso.Photo: One Wed

No, NO Anne Hathaway!  Photo: Meg and Wes Wedding

No, NO Anne Hathaway, No!
Photo: Meg and Wes Wedding

I can't even. This bride is SITTING DOWN. Put your flowers down, girl! Photo:

I can’t even. This bride is SITTING DOWN. Put your flowers down, girl!

Do you see what is happening here? These bouquets are all held WAY TOO HIGH!

Ladies, your bouquet is not a shield. Please do not hold it in front of your torso as though it is going to protect you from death rays. You are walking down the aisle, not walking into battle. (I mean, I don’t know your family, maybe you are. My point is: Flowers will not protect you!)

First of all, everyone wants to see your dress. That’s just the truth. When everyone stands and turns to watch you walk down the aisle, the first thing they want to see is The Dress. And if you are covering up The Dress with your flowers, it’s just not fair. Don’t be unfair to your guests. Let them see your dress.

Now I know some of you are thinking, “But I’m shy! I don’t want all eyes on me!”. Um. I hate to break this to you, Shy-One, but its your wedding day. All eyes are going to be on you, like it or not. Shouldn’t you want to be the most gracious and composed version of yourself? I’m not asking you to dance down the aisle or anything. Just hold your bouquet at the proper height.

What’s the proper height, you ask?

Well, let’s look at some brides who’ve done it right. Gold Stars for these Brides!!!

Chelsea Clinton knows whats up. Photo: US Magazine

Chelsea Clinton knows whats up.
Photo: US Magazine

Kate should have shown Ann the way. Seriously. Photo: Chandra Keel Blog

Kate should have shown Anne the way. Seriously.
Photo: Chandra Keel Blog

Real-life Bride!  Photo: Redfield Photography

Real-life Bride!
Photo: Redfield Photography

Do you see whats happening here? Do you see the soft diamond shape their arms make? Do you see where their bouquet lies? It’s not at their waist. Let your waist (which for most, is the tiniest part of the body) be seen!

Here’s what I’m saying, in a way that you will never forget: Hold your bouquet over your lady parts. Yes, thats what I’m saying. The correct height for your bouquet is crotch height.

True Story.

I bet you won’t forget it.

And while we are at it, let’s address the trickiness of being “walked down the aisle”, because, really, who walks arm-in-arm these days on the regular?


Here’s the deal. The Secret. The thing that I want you all to remember.

You can walk arm in arm with someone without holding onto them with a death grip. You aren’t going to fall down (provided you’ve hemmed your gown to the proper length) and your dad or mom or whomever does not need you to hold them up. Do not hold on to them…LET THEM HOLD ON TO YOU. So, none of this, please…

Photo: Hey Gorg

Photo: Hey Gorg

And if you are being walked down the aisle by two people?

Lets try to do less of this:

Photo: Donna Gustin

Photo: Donna Gustin

Now, don’t misunderstand. This bride is lovely! She looks amazing, and happy and composed. Everything is lovely, except for the placement of her bouquet!

What should she have done?


This is pretty near bouquet holding perfection! Her arms are in the gentle diamond shape, her bouquet is over her lady bits, and her escorts are holding on to her – not the other way around. We can see her dress, we can see her beautiful face, it’s perfect!

I am not going to lie to you – I plan to practice this in a mirror a bunch of time before my wedding. Practice makes perfect, and what you want for this is a muscle memory, because you will not be looking in a mirror right before you walk down the aisle. So, practice! No one will know but you (and probably your fiancé!).

Also, I will have both MOH CraftyPants and my Day of Coordinator on “Bouquet Watch 2013”.

I know there is a lot to think about on your wedding day, and I just added one more thing. But trust me, you will not regret paying attention to this one.

Anyone out there have “bouquet regret”? Share with us!


9 Comments on Bouquet Holding 101

  1. purplelue
    April 23, 2013 at 9:12 am (3 years ago)

    Your post is funny but true! My coordinator told me, just as you wrote on where to hold the bouquet. It’s tricky but brides must know this so that their photos would look clean and beautiful!

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      April 23, 2013 at 9:31 am (3 years ago)

      It IS tricky, but I hope I can manage it! I am so glad your coordinator told you the same – she’s a keeper!

  2. Cherryblossoms and Faeriewings
    April 23, 2013 at 7:04 am (3 years ago)

    Brilliant! Wish I’ve read this before my wedding :p

  3. Cherryblossoms and Faeriewings
    April 23, 2013 at 6:56 am (3 years ago)

    Reblogged this on Cherryblossoms and Faeriewings and commented:
    I stumbled upon this wedding-tip-treasure while random-reading other blogs! Read up! I wish I’ve read this before my wedding. :) Do’s and Dont’s of holding THE bouquet.

  4. Chelsea (@two_twenty_one)
    April 22, 2013 at 10:27 am (3 years ago)

    Thank you for including me as a “pretty near bouquet holding perfection” example! I took holding my bouquet very seriously because this is the first time guests see a bride. My situation was a little different than most brides because I had my dad and step-dad walk me down the aisle. I held the bouquet where I wanted it and told them to grab onto me. Simple as that. Thanks for sharing this topic with your readers! This is definitely something most brides don’t think of.

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      April 22, 2013 at 5:20 pm (3 years ago)

      Girl, you are perfect! I was so thrilled to come across your photo in a search – it was REALLY difficult to find someone doing it right! Thanks for reading, and commenting!

  5. Natalie
    April 15, 2013 at 2:52 pm (3 years ago)

    You are absolutely correct! My mother has been preaching the “flowers low, walk slow” mantra to my friends and me for years. Not only do so many girls hold their flowers improperly but often times they practically gallop down the aisle. I understand that people can be shy and I am by no means pushing “left together, right together”, but take your time and let everyone (including yourself) soak it all in. It’s not a race.

    Wonderful post! Thank you for properly educating the masses.

    • thatbridesgotmoxie
      April 15, 2013 at 11:46 pm (3 years ago)

      I love your mom! “Flowers low, walk slow” is going to be my wedding day mantra!! And yes, soak it all in. I hope to be present enough to do just that. We shall see. :-)
      Thanks for reading, and commenting!


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