Hi Peeps! I know, it’s been a while! Let’s get back to the wedding recaps, shall we?
When we last left off, Bob the Builder and I had taken some photos around City Hall in Philadelphia, and just made it to our venue, The Down Town Club, as it started to rain…again. This was fine with me, because we also had to rehearse…again.
If you’ve been following along, you know that we rehearsed (and had our rehearsal dinner) the night before. Because The Down Town Club is a busy venue, we were unable to rehearse in the actual space on Friday evening. As Friday night weddings become increasingly more popular, traditional ceremony rehearsals become more tricky. We chose to rehearse in a banquet room at a hotel just down the block (shout out to the great team at Best Western Plus Independence Park Hotel for being super awesome!)
The downside to not rehearsing in your actual venue? Well, you’re not in the actual venue! I measured out our aisle (of course I did, I’m insane…), but still, there was only so much we could re-create in a small banquet room. Also, it proved difficult to get everyone to pay attention at the first rehearsal. So, I was grateful that we had scheduled another walkthrough for 4pm on the wedding day. However, I was very clear with my wedding planner that I did not wish to attend that rehearsal.
Here’s why you need to hire a wedding planner and/or Day-Of-Coordinator. Amanda, from Proud to Plan, was able to run this second rehearsal while I spent a few minutes by myself in the bridal suite. It was seriously the only time all day that I was alone – I wasn’t even alone when I went to the bathroom – so, for me, those few minutes were invaluable. I wanted a few minutes to compose myself and try to “get present”. It wasn’t easy. All day, I was sort of outside myself, looking in. It was difficult for me to relax. I was surprised at how overwhelmed I felt. I was grateful for those few quiet moments.
After the second rehearsal, everyone came back upstairs to the bridal suite. I wanted to be sure the bridal party was out of sight while guests were arriving. Not just myself and Bob the Builder, but everyone in the bridal party. I think you need to preserve a sense of anticipation for a wedding, and you never want to burst the bubble of the first time your guests lay eyes on everyone in their fancy duds! Seriously, though. Keep all your major players under wraps until the ceremony. Except for your parents. They should be out and about, greeting guests.
While we were waiting for guests to arrive, Cescaphe set up, just for us, a major spread of food and drink. It was amazing (and VERY relaxing) to be able to have a drink and a nosh while we were waiting. I mean, all I had was water and a few shrimp that I ate while leaning over the table to limit spillage, but still..it was awesome. If you can feed your wedding party right before the ceremony, it will make them happy. Always keep your friends happy.
After we were done snacking, it was nearly time to begin!
On a whim, I asked everyone to “circle up”. If you’ve ever acted in a play, you may be familiar with this. It’s basically a moment before the show begins where the cast and (sometimes crew) gather in a circle to check in with one another and say a few words. I couldn’t help myself, I am a theatre geek, to the bone. Thankfully, everyone obliged without much ribbing. It looked like this:
I don’t even remember what was said, but as I looked around the room at these lovely people that agreed to stand by our side on our wedding day, I couldn’t help but feel incredibly lucky. So lucky to have met these wonderful people, and so lucky to still be able to call them friends.
The time was ticking – it was time to begin the ceremony. Bob the Builder grabbed his star wand.
And just like that, we were off!
Up next: Ceremony!
Tell me, friends, did anyone else have their rehearsal on their wedding day?
All photos by the crazy talented Redfield Photography