Raise your hand if you got engaged on Friday! Did you know that Huff Post estimates that 6 MILLION couples became engaged on Valentine’s Day. Whew! That’s A LOT of proposals, you guys.
In honor of those 6 million happy couples, I’m here to share with you my Top 5 Things to Do Now That You’re Engaged!
I know you’re thinking, “Duh, yeah, of course!”. And yes, duh. But, let’s talk about HOW you are telling your peeps. I called my Dad basically right after Bob the Builder proposed. And then called my four bridesmaids. Then I realized it was after midnight on the East Coast and had to wait until the morning to call my Mom, and Bob the Builders’ family. So, I called them in the morning. Then I got tired and lazy and decided just to change my Facebook status. I didn’t realize it then, but some of my friends were miffed that they had to hear about it on Facebook and not from me directly. So, consider your peeps. And consider that getting engaged is a big huge life thing, and it (probably) only happens once, and pick up the phone and call your nearest and dearest. Or go see them in person. Don’t just rely on the Book of Face. Which brings me to…
2. Update your Social Media.
AFTER you’ve informed all your peeps, THEN you can go and update your Facebook status. Trust me, it’s fun. And the responses from your FB friends will make you feel all warm and fuzzy. Announcing your engagement on Facebook is 100 times better than your birthday on Facebook, and we all know birthdays are the main reason we all put up with Facebook year after year. Right?
3. Get Thee to Pinterest.
What did we do before Pinterest? How did we plan anything, including dinner? If you’re not already a devotee, get thee to Pinterest. It is the easiest way to start dreaming up your day. And this is the perfect time to do it – before the realities of guest lists and budgets come creeping in. Use the search tool and go right to “wedding”. You can dig deeper by using hashtags, (#rusticwedding #blueandyellowwedding #ballroomwedding) You can make one board, or break down your planning into specific boards. I have boards dedicated to florals, dresses, tablescapes, color palettes, and much more. And, while you’re at it, you should follow me there too!
4. Practice Polite Responses.
The good news is: Everyone you know is happy and excited for you. The bad news is: Everyone has an opinion on what you should do. And, most of the time, they will share those opinions with you. I found it’s best to have a polite response ready for these occasions. Discuss it with your fiance, but I found a simple, “We are so excited just to be engaged, we haven’t decided on anything yet!”, usually get the job done without hurting anyone’s feelings!
5. Get a New Email Address. Actually, Get 2.
This is my most practical bit of advice for you. Sign up for a new email address. Actually, get two. Make one a “dump account”, that you can use to sign up for mailing lists and give out to potential vendors at wedding shows. You will start to get A LOT of email from everything and anything wedding related. And that’s good. Get on the mailing list for any vendor you like – that is how you will find out about specials and discounts! But keep it separate from your personal or work email, so it doesn’t drive you insane. Once you book a vendor, give them your real email address. Easy peasy.
The second email address is for your married name. Even if you’re not sure if you’re changing it, just sign up for it. If you decide later on, you’re covered. Especially if you are marrying into a popular last name, like Smith.
I also want to recommend Gmail, if you don’t already use it. Gmail has awesome filters and labels, so you can keep your wedding emails super organized. My motto is: “Start Organized, Stay Organized. Stay Sane.”
6. Insure your ring!
Everyone always says to do this, but no one tells you how. Here’s how. Get your ring appraised by your local jeweler (or wherever your fiancé purchased your ring). Then, call your insurance company and ask them. You don’t need a special jewelry insurance. Mine is covered under our renters insurance. Easy peasy. Just make sure you do it! I know this all too well. After all, my engagement ring broke!
And, if you are already overwhelmed by All Things Wedding, consider hiring a professional planner and/or coordinator. My company, Moxie Bright Events is available for Full Wedding Planning and Wedding Day Management in Southern California and beyond! We love to travel.